So, one of the most interesting experiences that I've had has been telling people that I'm dating someone who does drag. In and of itself, it's not really that big a deal. Well, to me, anyway.
The reaction that surprised me the most, was "So, do you only date drag queens now?" This makes sense, in that the last boyfriend I had, and my current one both do drag. (And both are friends.) My first reaction to that, was offense. Because, in the moment, my thought was, I wasn't dating the "alter". I have since changed my stance on that a bit. (More on this in a minute.)
The best reaction, I have to admit came from my mom. "Oh, so, what does he do?" Me, being me, I couldn't exactly leave it out. Especially, since the first time I talked about Dan, was when he invited me to go to see him in a show in Waterville, the Screaming Queens. So, I explained that he had two jobs, and that he did drag. She later friended him and recently friended Shaunna Rai on Facebook. Mom's response? "He makes a prettier girl than I do." And, later on, "How does he walk in those shoes? If I tried that, I'd fall on my face!"
So, back to dating the "alter". As I said, my initial reaction was to get mad. Because, I'm not a gay guy trying to pass myself off as straight by dating someone, who sometimes, kinda looks like a girl. I'm a gay guy, dating another gay guy, who just happens to sometimes dress up like a woman, and looks amazing as either. The longer we've been dating though, the more I realize that in some ways, I am dating Shaunna Rai as well. Screaming Queens was technically a date, with Shaunna Rai. And, on a few of our other dates, even though, I was out with Dan, dressed as Dan, people referred to him as Shaunna Rai. I was quite unsure about how to handle it at first. But, now, it makes no difference. If I'm Dan's boyfriend, Awesome. If I'm Shaunna Rai's boyfriend, Great. And, with the promoting that I've started doing for Shaunna Rai, and company, I'd say that she definitely has had an impact on my life. In more of a positive way than I ever would have imagined. I feel like I'm doing something, for the first time in a long time.
The reaction that surprised me the most, was "So, do you only date drag queens now?" This makes sense, in that the last boyfriend I had, and my current one both do drag. (And both are friends.) My first reaction to that, was offense. Because, in the moment, my thought was, I wasn't dating the "alter". I have since changed my stance on that a bit. (More on this in a minute.)
The best reaction, I have to admit came from my mom. "Oh, so, what does he do?" Me, being me, I couldn't exactly leave it out. Especially, since the first time I talked about Dan, was when he invited me to go to see him in a show in Waterville, the Screaming Queens. So, I explained that he had two jobs, and that he did drag. She later friended him and recently friended Shaunna Rai on Facebook. Mom's response? "He makes a prettier girl than I do." And, later on, "How does he walk in those shoes? If I tried that, I'd fall on my face!"
So, back to dating the "alter". As I said, my initial reaction was to get mad. Because, I'm not a gay guy trying to pass myself off as straight by dating someone, who sometimes, kinda looks like a girl. I'm a gay guy, dating another gay guy, who just happens to sometimes dress up like a woman, and looks amazing as either. The longer we've been dating though, the more I realize that in some ways, I am dating Shaunna Rai as well. Screaming Queens was technically a date, with Shaunna Rai. And, on a few of our other dates, even though, I was out with Dan, dressed as Dan, people referred to him as Shaunna Rai. I was quite unsure about how to handle it at first. But, now, it makes no difference. If I'm Dan's boyfriend, Awesome. If I'm Shaunna Rai's boyfriend, Great. And, with the promoting that I've started doing for Shaunna Rai, and company, I'd say that she definitely has had an impact on my life. In more of a positive way than I ever would have imagined. I feel like I'm doing something, for the first time in a long time.
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